Yet I know that this is not the ultimate truth about me, and so there must be a way to change this experience of myself”. You still feel the same, but change what you take that to mean. It allows you to reach out for help and support and then, when you need to commit to more self-care, yet feel unworthy of it, you know how to acknowledge the unworthiness without buying into it.
This is crucial, because without this subtle inner shift, you’ll stay stuck in victim mode, always running after everyone else, but never getting the support for yourself that you need.
I thought we became close friends and confidantes; there were times during this abroad experience I felt a close spiritual connection.
Rather, the solution is to shift the pattern of 100% giving and 0% taking, to something more balanced by – learning how to take more and better care of yourself and do less care-taking of others – teaming up with people who are givers too – learning to set boundaries with takers – learning how to delete the unworthiness programme one step at a time As much sense as this may make rationally, this whole story likely feels “off” to you at least a little right now.
This is because as empaths, initially, we tend to take our emotions at face value. In the case of unworthiness, this is a risky scenario, that can take you down a road of being seriously abused.
When you are loving someone else, you get to experience that love a little bit for yourself.
In that moment of giving, you feel the love flowing through your system, and it feels good! This sets up a pattern of co-dependence, of becoming a giver only, and of attracting takers (aka narcissistic people) into your life.
Yes, your emotions are real, but it’s important to be mindful of their interpretation.